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Child Abuse Victims Seeking Justice
The 25 and 27 - year old victims of a vicious child abuse custody case are seeking justice 18 years after custody was reversed to their father who they accused of abusing them when they were children. Now they and other child abuse victims are coming forward demanding answers and changes.
Over 2 decades ago in 1990 Jennifer and Zachary Collins told their mother Holly Collins that their father was hurting them during visitation. Holly Collins only 24 years old at the time believed her children because she was also abused by their father/ her ex-husband Mark Collins, Maple Grove Minnesota. After several orders for protection were granted and a thorough investigation into all the allegations of abuse and counter claims from Mark Collins that Holly was an unfit mother, a family court judge Michael Davis issued a finding of domestic violence. Despite his finding of abuse in the very same order Judge Davis decided that the mother was emotionally unstable and reversed custody of the 7 year old Jennifer and 9 year old Zachary to their father, the very man who this judge found to be abusive.
How is this possible?
That is what Jennifer, Zachary and countless other abused children want to know. “Everyone knew that our father was hurting us!” insists Jennifer “But court officials just covered it up because they did not like that our mother was so frantic, desperate and emotional.”
When challenged abou being angry Jennifer Collins replies: "Yes I am angry. Nothing's changed and kids are still being handed over to known abusers."
Over 2 decades ago in 1990 Jennifer and Zachary Collins told their mother Holly Collins that their father was hurting them during visitation. Holly Collins only 24 years old at the time believed her children because she was also abused by their father/ her ex-husband Mark Collins, Maple Grove Minnesota. After several orders for protection were granted and a thorough investigation into all the allegations of abuse and counter claims from Mark Collins that Holly was an unfit mother, a family court judge Michael Davis issued a finding of domestic violence. Despite his finding of abuse in the very same order Judge Davis decided that the mother was emotionally unstable and reversed custody of the 7 year old Jennifer and 9 year old Zachary to their father, the very man who this judge found to be abusive.
How is this possible?
That is what Jennifer, Zachary and countless other abused children want to know. “Everyone knew that our father was hurting us!” insists Jennifer “But court officials just covered it up because they did not like that our mother was so frantic, desperate and emotional.”
When challenged abou being angry Jennifer Collins replies: "Yes I am angry. Nothing's changed and kids are still being handed over to known abusers."
CA3 - A Place for Chidren of Abuse
My name is Jennifer Collins. When I was a little girl I was abused by my father. When my mother tried to protect my brother and me, my father accused her of “Parental Alienation.” The court found that both of my parents were correct; my mother was right that my father was abusive and my father was right that my mother was keeping us from him. So… the court decided that the current custody agreement wasn’t working and they reversed custody to the very man who was beating us. How do I sanely explain what insanely happened to me? How do I make sense of something that can’t be rationalized? Even now, it seems unreal - except I know what happened to me and the court documents show that this "drama" is really a documentary.
"Happy childhood" - I've wondered a lot about that throughout my life. Does that mean the same thing for everyone? Is a "happy childhood" a break in between beatings or is it never being beaten at all? My father used to beat me and my brother. Just as (or perhaps even more) traumatizing was watching my father beat up my mother. It wasn’t just a quick smack or just one excessively hard blow. He would go on and on for what seemed like an eternity; tormenting her, slapping her, yelling at her, punching her, kicking her, pulling her hair, etc… I used to hide in the closet with my brother and it wasn't for a game of "Hide & Seek". We would leave the door open a little bit because I was afraid of the dark. Through the crack, we would watch with horror the savage abuse of our poor, sweet, loving mommy. That memory alone has scarred me for life.
When my father repeatedly slammed my 4 year old brother into a wall and fractured his skull, that is where it all should have ended, but it was only the beginning... Child protection was called by our priest or the doctors. (I still can’t figure out who was the first one to call because that is kept anonymous.) My mother was threatened that if she didn’t leave our father, we would be taken away and she would be charged with “failure to protect.” She did what she was told to do; she fled with us and filed for a temporary Order for Protection which was extended for a year.
As a child I thought what happened up until this point was both of my parents' responsibility. This is a common mistake also made by many professionals and the public who fail to understand the abuser is solely responsible for his actions. Once the court system “took responsibility” for the safety and well being of my brother and me, they must share the blame for failing to protect us since they were completely aware of my father’s abuse. Even though it was my father's fists and his ongoing use of violence against us, he was allowed to hurt us under their "watch." So from this point on, I hold the court 100% responsible for every ounce of terror, trauma and injury we suffered at our father's hands! Although my mother was awarded custody of us, despite my father's well-known and well-documented use of force and violence against us, my father was somehow awarded unsupervised visitation with my brother and me! This is our entry into the “INjustice System” (as I experienced it.) How could this happen? The search into answering that question became the root of my investigation and examination of our family court system, which subsequently led to the creation of my organization CA3 – Children Against Court Appointed Child Abuse.
My mother was only 22 years-old when she fled from my father’s violence yet she was even willing to return to my father when she came to understand how she had been betrayed by the system that was put in place to protect her and her children. Can you imagine escaping abuse, then coming to the realization that it was safer for your children if you went back to your abuser because you could distract some of the abuse away from them? This young battered woman was overwrought with guilt because we were forced to go alone with our father on visitations which left us facing the brunt of his anger since she was no longer there to protect us from him. My father continued to beat us and threaten our mother that he was going to kill us and himself so she would have to suffer for the rest of her life. This scared the heck out of all of us! Time after time my father would hold his hand or a pillow over my face and suffocate me until it “all turned black.” Every single time he had me gasping for air I thought I was going to die. Now that I am older I realize how close he came to really killing us.
My father’s abuse continued up until my brother was 9 years-old and I was 7. We would beg our mother not to send us with him. She tried to protect us and let us stay home, but then our father showed up at our home with the police. They would enter our home, search for us and literally pull us out from under our beds where we were trying to hide to find safety - then the police would actually hand us over to the man who was hurting us! Sometimes our mom gave up and would just hand us over to him with tears running down her face, apologizing and trying to explain that she didn’t have any other choice. We were two terrified little kids who couldn't understand WHY our mom, who loved us so much, wouldn’t protect us. Regardless of all the evidence and witnesses to the facts of our abuse, our father filed for a reversal of custody claiming that our fear and unwillingness to go with him was actually caused by our mother's use of “parental alienation” against him. In another step deeper into the injustice system, we were ripped away from our mother and forced to live alone with our father!
Considering the circumstances, you'd think my father would at least try to put on a good show with the court’s oversight, but he continued to severely beat us regardless! The GAL’s "sage" words did little to help us: “Visitation with the mother is to remain supervised as long as the children keep reporting abuse.” Can you believe it? All my father had to do to keep control was to make sure that he kept beating us and he had it writing! This is 100% the fault of the court. I would show up at court supervised visitation with my mother and lift up my shirt to display the welts and bruises on my back and bottom that my father had left on me saying “He’s still hurting us.” Everyone gasped but did nothing. They'd tell me “You are not allowed to talk about those kinds of things anymore.” That is what I call “Court Appointed Child Abuse” - when the legal authorities KNOW that a child is being abused and does not do a thing to protect them. I thought what happened to me and my brother was unique but through research, I learned that thousands of children each year are court ordered into such abuse!
Having survived this nightmare, I’m sure you can understand that I wouldn't wish such a fate on any child. Can you imagine how I felt when I discovered that it's still going on in family court cases all over this country? Mind you, these are DOMESTIC VIOLENCE cases where violence, abuse and trauma were the reasons for the divorce and disintegration of the family in the first place!
Something has to be done! It is up to us grown children of abuse to come forward with our stories of how the system failed us. Then we need to demand change! That is how CA3 “Children Against Court Appointed Child Abuse” was born. Many people, even some politicians, are starting to take notice. Let’s join together to stop the CA-CA!
Please send me your story to me at: CA3CACACA@hotmail.com
Sincerely,
Jennifer
CA3CACACA.blogspot.com
Children Against
Court Appointed
Child Abuse
"Happy childhood" - I've wondered a lot about that throughout my life. Does that mean the same thing for everyone? Is a "happy childhood" a break in between beatings or is it never being beaten at all? My father used to beat me and my brother. Just as (or perhaps even more) traumatizing was watching my father beat up my mother. It wasn’t just a quick smack or just one excessively hard blow. He would go on and on for what seemed like an eternity; tormenting her, slapping her, yelling at her, punching her, kicking her, pulling her hair, etc… I used to hide in the closet with my brother and it wasn't for a game of "Hide & Seek". We would leave the door open a little bit because I was afraid of the dark. Through the crack, we would watch with horror the savage abuse of our poor, sweet, loving mommy. That memory alone has scarred me for life.
When my father repeatedly slammed my 4 year old brother into a wall and fractured his skull, that is where it all should have ended, but it was only the beginning... Child protection was called by our priest or the doctors. (I still can’t figure out who was the first one to call because that is kept anonymous.) My mother was threatened that if she didn’t leave our father, we would be taken away and she would be charged with “failure to protect.” She did what she was told to do; she fled with us and filed for a temporary Order for Protection which was extended for a year.
As a child I thought what happened up until this point was both of my parents' responsibility. This is a common mistake also made by many professionals and the public who fail to understand the abuser is solely responsible for his actions. Once the court system “took responsibility” for the safety and well being of my brother and me, they must share the blame for failing to protect us since they were completely aware of my father’s abuse. Even though it was my father's fists and his ongoing use of violence against us, he was allowed to hurt us under their "watch." So from this point on, I hold the court 100% responsible for every ounce of terror, trauma and injury we suffered at our father's hands! Although my mother was awarded custody of us, despite my father's well-known and well-documented use of force and violence against us, my father was somehow awarded unsupervised visitation with my brother and me! This is our entry into the “INjustice System” (as I experienced it.) How could this happen? The search into answering that question became the root of my investigation and examination of our family court system, which subsequently led to the creation of my organization CA3 – Children Against Court Appointed Child Abuse.
My mother was only 22 years-old when she fled from my father’s violence yet she was even willing to return to my father when she came to understand how she had been betrayed by the system that was put in place to protect her and her children. Can you imagine escaping abuse, then coming to the realization that it was safer for your children if you went back to your abuser because you could distract some of the abuse away from them? This young battered woman was overwrought with guilt because we were forced to go alone with our father on visitations which left us facing the brunt of his anger since she was no longer there to protect us from him. My father continued to beat us and threaten our mother that he was going to kill us and himself so she would have to suffer for the rest of her life. This scared the heck out of all of us! Time after time my father would hold his hand or a pillow over my face and suffocate me until it “all turned black.” Every single time he had me gasping for air I thought I was going to die. Now that I am older I realize how close he came to really killing us.
My father’s abuse continued up until my brother was 9 years-old and I was 7. We would beg our mother not to send us with him. She tried to protect us and let us stay home, but then our father showed up at our home with the police. They would enter our home, search for us and literally pull us out from under our beds where we were trying to hide to find safety - then the police would actually hand us over to the man who was hurting us! Sometimes our mom gave up and would just hand us over to him with tears running down her face, apologizing and trying to explain that she didn’t have any other choice. We were two terrified little kids who couldn't understand WHY our mom, who loved us so much, wouldn’t protect us. Regardless of all the evidence and witnesses to the facts of our abuse, our father filed for a reversal of custody claiming that our fear and unwillingness to go with him was actually caused by our mother's use of “parental alienation” against him. In another step deeper into the injustice system, we were ripped away from our mother and forced to live alone with our father!
Considering the circumstances, you'd think my father would at least try to put on a good show with the court’s oversight, but he continued to severely beat us regardless! The GAL’s "sage" words did little to help us: “Visitation with the mother is to remain supervised as long as the children keep reporting abuse.” Can you believe it? All my father had to do to keep control was to make sure that he kept beating us and he had it writing! This is 100% the fault of the court. I would show up at court supervised visitation with my mother and lift up my shirt to display the welts and bruises on my back and bottom that my father had left on me saying “He’s still hurting us.” Everyone gasped but did nothing. They'd tell me “You are not allowed to talk about those kinds of things anymore.” That is what I call “Court Appointed Child Abuse” - when the legal authorities KNOW that a child is being abused and does not do a thing to protect them. I thought what happened to me and my brother was unique but through research, I learned that thousands of children each year are court ordered into such abuse!
Having survived this nightmare, I’m sure you can understand that I wouldn't wish such a fate on any child. Can you imagine how I felt when I discovered that it's still going on in family court cases all over this country? Mind you, these are DOMESTIC VIOLENCE cases where violence, abuse and trauma were the reasons for the divorce and disintegration of the family in the first place!
Something has to be done! It is up to us grown children of abuse to come forward with our stories of how the system failed us. Then we need to demand change! That is how CA3 “Children Against Court Appointed Child Abuse” was born. Many people, even some politicians, are starting to take notice. Let’s join together to stop the CA-CA!
Please send me your story to me at: CA3CACACA@hotmail.com
Sincerely,
Jennifer
CA3CACACA.blogspot.com
Children Against
Court Appointed
Child Abuse
Glenn Sacks Willing Participant in Domestic Violence by Proxy Case by Jennifer Collins
Does anyone else notice that there is a 40 something year old fathers' rights guy named Glenn Sacks who keeps stalking ME and My Family? He has never met me or my mother but he represents the very man who beat us, kicked us and tortured us for years. I don’t know if Glenn Sacks is now acting alone or if he is still acting on behalf of our stalker/abuser, my father, Mark J Collins, Maple Grove, Minnesota.
Several different judges found that my father was abusive. My father admitted to beating up my mother and breaking her nose “2 or 3 times.” He admitted to strangling me and my brother when we were children and threatening to kill us all.
Glenn Sacks obsession with my mother is frightening. He keeps trying to convince people that I was not abused by my father. He keeps searching through my personal records, my doctor’s reports, our Court Sealed Files and even my mom’s child protection records from when she was molested as a little girl. He twists the evidence and post vicious lies about our family. My brother and I have asked him to leave us alone but he keeps harassing us to the point where it might be considered stalking. Glenn Sacks even goats me and publically dares us to sue him.
This is a typical approach of my father: when he couldn't beat my mother anymore, he resulted to Domestic Violence by Proxy and he physically abused me and my brother to hurt my mother. Now that he can't beat me and my brother anymore and can't get to our mother through us, he is using Glenn Sacks to try to continue to manipulate and control us.
I wonder how much my father is paying Glenn Sacks, bribing him or "donating" to him to defend his abuse of his ex-wife and children. Glenn Sacks certainly is guilty of being an accomplice to DVbP by participating in my father’s continued emotional abuse of us today.
In one of Sacks recent articles he talks about a American/Italian boy who told Italian authorities that his father was hurting him. The Italian government is protecting the little boy from his abusive American father. Glenn Sacks has decided to support another abusive father. Surprised? I'm not! Out of the blue at the end of an article that has nothing to do with me and my brother Glenn Sacks writes: "I've previously noted the similarities between this nightmarish case and the Holly Collins Prartental Kidnapping case--to learn more, click here."
Is this the only way this jerk can get people's attention to mention my name, a 24 year old college student who is desperately trying to heal from my father's abuse, in his articles? Glenn Sacks keeps capitalizing off of the pain and suffering of my family. I just want this jerk who is acting on behalf of my abusive father to leave me alone. Doesn't anyone else think that this is enough?
Can someone please stop these men from harassing me?
Jennifer Collins
Abused Daughter of:
Mark Jude Collins
9330 Juneau Ln N
Maple Grove, MN 55369-8300
(763) 420-6930
Several different judges found that my father was abusive. My father admitted to beating up my mother and breaking her nose “2 or 3 times.” He admitted to strangling me and my brother when we were children and threatening to kill us all.
Glenn Sacks obsession with my mother is frightening. He keeps trying to convince people that I was not abused by my father. He keeps searching through my personal records, my doctor’s reports, our Court Sealed Files and even my mom’s child protection records from when she was molested as a little girl. He twists the evidence and post vicious lies about our family. My brother and I have asked him to leave us alone but he keeps harassing us to the point where it might be considered stalking. Glenn Sacks even goats me and publically dares us to sue him.
This is a typical approach of my father: when he couldn't beat my mother anymore, he resulted to Domestic Violence by Proxy and he physically abused me and my brother to hurt my mother. Now that he can't beat me and my brother anymore and can't get to our mother through us, he is using Glenn Sacks to try to continue to manipulate and control us.
I wonder how much my father is paying Glenn Sacks, bribing him or "donating" to him to defend his abuse of his ex-wife and children. Glenn Sacks certainly is guilty of being an accomplice to DVbP by participating in my father’s continued emotional abuse of us today.
In one of Sacks recent articles he talks about a American/Italian boy who told Italian authorities that his father was hurting him. The Italian government is protecting the little boy from his abusive American father. Glenn Sacks has decided to support another abusive father. Surprised? I'm not! Out of the blue at the end of an article that has nothing to do with me and my brother Glenn Sacks writes: "I've previously noted the similarities between this nightmarish case and the Holly Collins Prartental Kidnapping case--to learn more, click here."
Is this the only way this jerk can get people's attention to mention my name, a 24 year old college student who is desperately trying to heal from my father's abuse, in his articles? Glenn Sacks keeps capitalizing off of the pain and suffering of my family. I just want this jerk who is acting on behalf of my abusive father to leave me alone. Doesn't anyone else think that this is enough?
Can someone please stop these men from harassing me?
Jennifer Collins
Abused Daughter of:
Mark Jude Collins
9330 Juneau Ln N
Maple Grove, MN 55369-8300
(763) 420-6930
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